KEEPING A RELATIONSHIP

It's best to wait for the one you want than settle for the one available.

Best to wait for the one you love than one who's around.

Best to wait for the right one because life's too short to be wasted on just someone.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.

Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time, their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.

Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?

What do you bring to the relationship?

Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.

Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

Seeking status, ! sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

What keeps a relationship strong?
- communication
- intimacy
- a sense of humor
- sharing household tasks
- some getaway time without business or children
- daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note)
- sharing common goals and interests
- giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure
- giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment
- asking God to be the center of your relationship.

***If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain replace the passion.

"A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself; to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart."

Born or bred?

There is no simple answer to the question, "Are some people born lesbian or gay?"

No one knows what causes heterosexuality, homosexuality, or bisexuality.

Homosexuality was once thought as the result of a troubled family or faulty psychological development, but these assumptions are "now understood to have been based on misinformation and prejudice."

While there have been many researches into the biological cause of homosexuality - ranging from the size of the hypothalamus to the difference in the lengths of a person's index and ring fingers "to date there are no replicated scientific studies supporting any specific biological etiology for homosexuality."

Similarly, no specific psychosocial or family dynamic cause for homosexuality has been identified, including histories of childhood sexual abuse. Sexual abuse does not appear to be more prevalent in children who grow up to identify as gay, lesbian or bisexual, than in children who identify as heterosexual.

What researchers have established is, that lesbian and gay young people are not "failed" heterosexuals and that homosexual partners are generally of the same age, proving wrong the assumptions that young people are "turned gay" by older people.

But experts also acknowledge, that "people's behavior is influenced by their family environment, their experiences and their sense of themselves. Beliefs about sex are initially shaped by family values. Later on these beliefs may be shaped by pleasant and unpleasant experiences of sex and also shape their choice of activities and partners. Throughout their life a person's sense of who and what they are has a strong impact on their sexual development and experience."

Till We Meet Again....

Your smile in the morning radiates like sunlight
Exasperating at once the harmony of my dreams.
From the dark I skewed my eyes to restore my sight,
And you come closer as I reach your arms.

Your gently touch kindles like the flaming fire
Healing impatiently my slothful dreary heart.

My tears suddenly fall ‘cause I long desire
That someday you’ll be back and won’t leave me apart.

Your face shimmers like a star in the night
And lightens the solemnity of my loneliness.

My tormented heart finally rage like a storm
Ravaging the absurdity of my weary soul.

Our love shall lingers as it was reborn
Never to lose again, always to be consoled.

Ready For Love

Take my hand and lead the way;
tell me all you want to say.

Whisper softly in my ear,
all those things I want to hear.

Kiss my lips and touch my skin;
bring out passions deep within.

Pull me close and hold me near;
take away my pain and fear.

In the darkness of the night,
be my beacon, shine your light.

In the brightness of the sun,
show me that you are the one.

Give me wings so I can fly;
for I can soar when you're nearby.

Enter my heart, break down the wall,
it's time for me to watch it fall.

I've been a prisoner, can't you see?
Break my chains and set me free.

Strip me of my armor tight;
you'll find I won't put up a fight.

Release my soul held deep within . . .
I'm ready now, let love begin.

A Fairytale....

Dreamland awaits you,
Close your eyee.

Imagine you and I,
Close as breath.

Skin upon skin,
Lips touching.

For you taste of Raspberries,
sweetly irresistible.

The fragrance of you,
Takes my breath away.

I am burning inside,
A torch of fire.

Burning fuel of passion,
For you are my desire.

My heart beats with every breath,
You are my destiny.

Your eyes evade me,
deep, dark, mysterious.


I am your slave,
Your love has captured me.

Grab my body,
Pull me close.

Show me your love,
In ways I could only dream.

Wake me I must be dreaming,
This is a fairytale.

The Mistake You Cannot Forget

You say you cannot forget
And you aren't ready to forgive
But I need your friendship
More than you'll even know
I need you there to live

Without you by my side today
Life's been going, oh so slow
I miss your calls
Our endless talks
The places we would go

You can't even bear to look at me,
And I know my mistake
For because of one night,
And a few thoughtless actions,
When you saw me you ran and hid

I know we cannot take it back
As much as we would like to
But we could forget
And start all over
Just friends, that's me and you

If time is what you need,
Then I guess that's what you'll get
But I need you there for me soon,
My friend,
I hope you will forget.

Di Bale Na Lang......

Sabi mo walang masama kung walang masasaktan…
Kaya sa halip na iwasan mo ako, lumalapit ka..

At sa mga kilos mo, pilitin ko mang huwag bigyang kahulugan
Ay nagbabadya na tila nais mo rin na maging bahagi ng buhay ko

Pigilin ko mang huwag sabihin sa iyo ang tunay kong damdamin,
Ngunit hindi ko maitago ang kahinaang taglay ng puso ko.

Dahil doon, naging mahina ako’t mapagparaya sa iyong hamon
Oo nga naman.. bakit nga hindi ko subukang mahalin ka..
Gayong wala namang masama kung maging akin ka..

Ngunit biglang naisip ko na baka nga may masaktan
Kung hindi ngayon, baka sa mga darating na araw…
Kung hindi sila.... baka ako.

Dahil sa angkin mong katangian
Baka hindi ko makaya kapag ika'y biglang mawala sa akin.

Mas sigurado akong maging maayos ang lahat
Kung ika’y mananatiling laman ng puso ko
Hindi bilang kahati, kung hindi bilang bahagi lang.

Gay Langauge

Anik / Anetch — ano (what) / which
Balaj — balahura (shameless)
Bitter Ocampo — malungkot (sad) / nagngingitngit (fuming mad) / bitter
Baklah / Baklush — used instead of one’s name, may refer to any gender
Givency / Janno Gibbs / Debbie Gibson — bigay (to give)
That’s Entertainment / Anda / Andalucia / Anju / Anjo Yllaña — datung (money)
Fatale — sobra (excessive) / to the max
Feel / Fillet o’ Fish — type / gusto / natipuhan (like)
Fly — alis (leave)
Forever — palagi (always) / matagal / mabagal (slow)
Pagoda Cold Wave Lotion — pagod (tired)
Washington / Wishing / Wish — wala (nothing or none)
Chanda Romero — tiyan (tummy)
Mahalia Jackson — mahal (expensive)
Kuya Germs — madumi (dirty) / bearer of germs
Lucresia Kasilag — lukaret / baliw (crazy)
Lucita Soriano — loser na sorry pa
Luz Valdez — matalo (to lose)
Winnie Santos — manalo (to win)
Award — pinagalitan / pinagsabihan (reprimanded)
Freestyle — slow makagets (to understand) / slow
Imbey / Im — imbyerna (irritation)
Jowa / Jowabelles / Jowabella — karelasyon / BF or GF
Kape / Capuccino / Coffeemate — magising ka sa katotohanan (be realistic)
Lupita Kashiwahara — malupit (cruel)
Rita Gomez — nakaka-irita (irritating personality)
Enter the Dragon / Entourage — pasok (to enter) / come in
Julie Andrew / Jolina Magdangal — mahuli (caught in the act)
Antibiotic — antipatika (bitch)
48 Years / 50 Golden Years / 10,000 — matagal (after a long time)
Crayola — iyak (to cry)
Thundercats / Chandeliers / Masyonda — matanda (old people)
Wrangler — gurang (also means old)
Jubis / Juba — taba (fatso)
Jutay / Jutes — maliit (small)
Kangkang — sex
Reyna Elena — ulan (to rain)
X-Men — dating lalaki (formerly a man) now gay
Morayta / Murriah Carrey — mura (cheap)
Pamintang Durog / Pamenthols — closet gays / acting as men
Backstreet Boys — cute boys at the back
Chiminey Cricket — chimay (maid)
Goodbye Suklay — goodbye
Fayatollah Kumenis — payat (skinny)
Anaconda — ahas (a snake) / traitor
Anong petsa na? — asked when someone is taking too long to dress up, etc.
Charing/Tienes — jest / a joke / not serious
Kaplang — mali (error) / mistake
Barbra Streisand / Barbara Perez — bara / binara (bluntly rejected)
Regal Drama Hour / Maalala Mo Kaya — when someone tells a sob story
_______, ikaw ba yan? — when someone acts like another
person, maybe a showbiz personality or not. (example: Vilma Santos, Ikaw Ba yan?)
Purita Kalaw — walang pera (broke) / mahirap (poor)
Rica Peralejo — mayaman (rich, from the Spanish word rica)
Chova / Chovaline Kyle — chika lang (small talk)
Cookie Chua / Cookie Monster — magluto (to cook)
Clasmarurut / Klasmarurut — classmate
Cynthia Luster — hindi kilalang babae o lalake (unknown she or he)
Daot — insulto (insult)
Eksena / Eksenadora — mahilig pumapel / mahilig sumabat (someone who always likes to figure in a scene)
Emote — mag-inarte pa rin (one who is over-acting)
Karir/Career — sineryoso ang isang bagay like BF or work (to be seriously involved)
Lafang — kain (eat)
Lapel — malakas ang boses (someone with a loud voice)
Carry / Keri / Cash & Carry — sige (OK or alright)
Cathy Dennis — “makati” (frisky) or promiscuous
Char / Charot / Charing / Charbroiled — not ok
Liberty / Statue of Liberty — libre (free)
Okray — paninirang puri (criticize)
Lucky Home Partner — live-in partner
In Fairness — pampalubag loob (to console)
Compared to Lugaw — kesa wala (better than nothing)

judang

Cairo Egypt -- lets go, tara na

Malaysia India Japan -- malay ko sa yo..

China Cojuangco -- mamahalin ; imported

Cathy Mora / Cathy Dennis -- ma kati;itchy

pyukersya -- slut

ninyonyobe -- sinasabi

Elsa Klensch -- Ma EL-ya

Boyband -- boyfriend na majoba

Strungga -- nenokin;nakawin

Purita Malaviga -- mahirap

*** iba post ko na lang ulet..saka *** use in a sentence baka memyang onti ko ilagay..hehehe

eto pa cont..

Biyondila -- kandila;candle

PaCindy Kurletor -- sindihan ang biyondila

Kumpipi -- confess

Jimba-ers -- Simbahan

Iglesia Iklaters -- Bisita Iglesia

Walkathon Everly -- prusisyon

judak

GAY TERM (derived from jp/english/sp or neologies) = MEANING

marhinal - low-class
om - a guy; derived from the Spanish ‘hombre’
bruja-bitch
car-karu
mother-mudra
brother-brudra
father-fudra
sis-sistereka
driver-druva
Jubis - Obese
Kyota - Children
Nyorts - A pair of shorts
Crayola - Cry
Thunder Cats/Chandeliers/Wranglers -old people
scuba diving- cover your nose
flag ceremony-brief
tax free-no payment
anaconda-traitor
eat and ditcher-to eat here
nosebleed-jaw dropping/hard/having difficulty
pocahontas-slut 
biogesic-masturbate
Japan/fly- leave
watashi-me, I
otokwa-girl
otokodeshe-boy
backless,badingger Z-a homosexual
years in the making- taking a very long time
chapter.chaka doll -ugly
kyoho-smelly
plastic-untrue
forever-slow
Freestyle -slow in understanding
X-men- formerly a man,now a gay
career-to be seriously involved
Liberty / Statue of Liberty — libre (free)
Carry-alright/okay
Lucky Home Partner — live-in partner
award-reprimanded
Enter the Dragon / Entourage — come in
antibiotic-bitch
kiri - friend
That’s Entertainment-money
Washington / Wishing / Wish — nothing or none
Kape / Capuccino / Coffeemate —be realistic/wake up from reality
ASTRONAUT- means he/she looks like a dog (aso is dog in filipino)
certain- little good looking
carry- a little bit good looking
grot- ugly
lost- uglier
jamaica-small
cornetto - lesbian

GAY TERMS (Derived from Names)- new meaning
Purita Mirasol - poor
Gelli de Belen - Jealous
Carmi Martin - Karma
Tom Jones-hungry
Cynthia Luster-an unknown person
Backstreet Boys — cute boys at the back
Luz Valdez — to lose
Winnie Santos -to win
Cookie Chua / Cookie Monster — to cook
Nina Richie Alagao-Rich
Bitter Ocampo — sad
SARAH JANE PAEZ - social climber

Filipino Gay Lingo (Language)

You might be wondering what those gays are talking about when you go the parlor. Well, here is the answer to your question. Just to send you on a laughing trip after a hard days work and also a little education on the side. Enjoy guys!
NOUNS, PRONOUNS AND PREPOSITIONS
adez, andabelz, adesa, anda, ka-andahan, andalucia – pera
akesh, akembang – ako
badet, dinga, dingalou – bading
berru – beer
borlog – tulog, power nap
bottomesa, bottones – a bottom
bufra – boyfriend
carrou, carosa – car
cheese – chismis
chimi, chimini, chimi-aa, chimini-aa – maid
constru – construction worker
daot – ahas, traitor
ditey, ditich, ditraks – dito
feelanga – crush
fiampey – singit, birdie, flower
garapata – vaklush na punggok na majubis
gardini – security guard
oishi – shabu
gulay, pechay, bilatch, tahong – babae
hada – oral gay sex
hammer – pakonyo effect sa mga prosti or callboy, “pokpok”
havana – mahabang mukha
hipon – maganda ang katawan pero panget
itich, itechlavu – ito
itich-me-how – birdie
jipamy – jeep
jowa, jowawis – lover, boy/girlfriend
jubelita – vaklita, batang bading
kat-kat – sosyal na tawag sa katulong
katol, chimay – katulong
kyota – bata
kyotatalet – sanggol
likil, mentos, future – lalaki
merlat, melat, bilat, mujer – babae
nota, notes – penis
pa-uring – a bottom
performance artist – mahilig mag-inarte
potato queen – chink for chinks
red alert – menstruation
rice queen – chink folks who go for white guys (?)
colbam, sholbam – callboy
shulupi – pulubi
shumod, shumodity – tams
suba, bugarou – cigarette
success story – babae/lalaki na mukhang katulong na may lover na foreigner na masalapi
katuray – baklang mukhang katulong na mataray
tayelz – tayo
variables – barya, coins
wigwam – wig
PROPER NOUNS
Ace Sanchez – a top
Aglipay – ugly Pinay ( jowang pokpok na chaka ng mayaman na foreigner )
Ana, Anaconda – ahas, traidor
Anita Linda, Aida – A.I.D.S.
Ate Vangie – gamot pampatulog (Ativan Gang)
Ate Vi – atrebida
Backstreet Boys – cute guys sa likuran mo
Bayombong, Nueva Viscaya – masturbate
Bebang, Mayta – maid
Blusang Itim – mga bakla na gumanda nang maayusan sa parlor
Cathy Santillan, Kate Gomez, Cathy Mora, Cathy Dennis – makati, malibog
Chabelita – chubby
Chanda Romero – tummy (ang laki ng Chanda Romero nung pulis) / an old woman
Chiquito – maliit
Churchill – sosyal
Crayola Khomeni – iyak
Dakota Harrison P! laza – malaki birdie
Debbie Gibson – give
Duty Free – maliit ang nota
Ella Mae (Saeson), Ella Fitzgerald, Ella Luansing – state of feeling horny
Eva Kalaw – evak
Felix Bakat – bakat ang birdie (sa brief or pants)
Girlie Rodis – babae
Givenchy – give, pahingi
Halls – tsupa
Indiana Jones – hindi sumipot
Janjalani, Pocahontas – bakla na palaging late o indyanera
Jennilyn (Mercado) – cheap, chaka
Joana Paras – asawa
Julanis Morisette, Reyna Elena – umuulan
Julie Andrews – mahuli
Kelvinator, Kelvina – babaeng mataba, sinlaki ng refrigirator
Leticia Ramos Shahani – shabu
Lilet – bading na bagets
Lucita Soriano – loss na, sorry pa
Lucrecia Kasilag – baliw
Luz Clarita, Luz Clarita, Luz Valdez – talo, loss ang beauty
Maharlika, Mahalia Jackson – mahal
Manilyn Reynes – malibog
Miss Nigeria – negra
Murriah Carey, Morayta – mura
Nora Daza – magluto
Oprah Winfrey, O.P.M. – oh, promise me, pangako, utang
Phil Collins – Philcoa
Purita Kalaw Ledesma, Purita Kashiwara, Pureta Malaviga – poor, dukha
Rica Paralejo, Nina Ricci – mayaman
Rita Gomez – naiirita
Ruffa – laklak
Siete Pecados – tsismosa
Thunder Cats – gurang
Tom Jones, Tommy Lee Jones – gutom
Uranus – puwet
Washington D.C. – wala
X-Men – mga dating lalaki
Yayo Aguila – dyahe
Zsa Zsa Padilla – o siya, sige!
ADJECTIVES & ADVERBS
48 years – sobrang tagal
antibiotic – antipatika
balaj, valaj – balahura
bella – boba
bigalou – big
biway, chopopo, guash – gwapo
bongga, bonggakea – super to the max
borta – malaki katawan
boyband – lalaking sintaba ng baboy
buya – nakakahiya
chaka, chuckie, shonget, ma-kyonget, chapter, jupang-pang – ugly
cheapangga, chipipay – cheap, ka-cheapan
chipipay – cheap
chopopo – gwapo
conalei – baklush
daki – dako
dites – dito
doonek – doon
effem – halatang bakla
emena gushung – malanding semenarista
fayatollah kumenis – payat
ganda lang – for free
ganders – maganda
intonses – sira, wasak
jongoloids – bobo
jowa, jowabelles, jowabella – karelasyon, boyfriend o girlfriend
jutay, juts – maliit
kabog, loss – talo!
katagalugan – matagal
katol – mukhang katulong
kirara – pangit / maitim
klapeypey-klapeypey – pumalakpak
krang-krang – hungry (same as Tom Jones)
krung-krung – sira ulo, baliw
lulu, tungril, tetetet – lesbian
mahogany, mashumers, ugmas – mabaho
majubis – mataba / gusgusin
matod – magnanakaw
nakakalurky – nakaka-shock, nakaka-takot
neuro – napaisip bigla, mind-boggler
oblation – walang saplot
otoko – lalakeng lalaki
pamin, paminta, pamentos, pamenthol – discreet gay guy
pinkalou – pink
pranella – praning
quality control – maganda ang quality
sangkatuts – marami, isang katutak
shala – sosyal
shogal – matagal
shokot, bokot – takot
shonga, shongaers, planggana – tanga
shonga-shonga – tanga-tanga
shonget, makyonget – ugly
shontis – buntis
sudems – never
tamalis – tamad
urky – nakakaloka
warla – loka-loka, nawawala sa sarili, nababaliw
wasok – contraction ng “wasak pag pasok”
wiz, waz – wala!
wrangler, thunder(s), tanders, majonders – matanda

WANTED: PERFECT LOVER

1) He's gotta be grown-up. Does he do what needs to be done? Does he know what needs to be done to begin with? Is he responsible, trustworthy, and reliable? Can he admit when he's wrong? Does he take responsibilities for his words and actions? Most importantly, does he take charge of his life or is he one of those self-destructive victims who blame everyone but themselves for their unhappiness (In that case, he can look elsewhere).

2) He must be funny and imaginative. I like guys who laugh easily, and who aren't afraid to be silly and spontaneous. He must know how to make me laugh and he should smile often. He and I must be able to have fun anywhere we are, whether it's at a rock concert, or inside a theatre watching a horror movie, or a walk in the park, or bumming on a sofa, or at a 7-Eleven --- anywhere!

3) I simply cannot be with a boring person. He must be the type of person who enjoys conversation. Someone who always has a say on things. If I can talk to him for hours and hours straight, and be genuinely interested in what he's saying the entire time, then that's 50 pogi-points. But he must also enjoy being silent.

4) Passion is sexy. He has to be passionate about something --- be it sports, music, art, anything, theatre, movies, books --- so long as I can tell his heart is in it, and his eyes light up when he brings it up, and he can talk about it like life is not worth living without it. (Note: this does not hold true for drugs, alcohol, pornography... you get the idea)

5) He must have direction in his life. Ok, so maybe he's in his twenties and going through confusion. Maybe he doesn't have to know exactly what he wants to do. But in the meantime, I would at least like him to be actively searching for what he wants to do, and not just bumming around watching TV or playing computer games at home.

6) What makes me fall in love is not perfection but imperfection --- little quirks that define a person's personality and character. I don't want perfect taste in clothes. I just want him to dress like himself, whoever that is. I don't want perfectly neat hair, or perfect skin. I like my men touchable, real, comfortable with themselves, and yes, a little messy, and scruffy, and madungis. ;-) It's just personal preference.

7) It is important to me that he has a spiritual life. This is not about being Catholic. This is about believing in a transcendent being, a belief that there is something beyond all this that we must strive for. I want him to pray, not just the Hail-Holy-Mary kind of praying, but real praying. It's okay if he's not entirely sure what he believes in yet, as long as he's searching.

8) Last but not the least, I would like him to be the kind of person who cares about humanity. I want him to be kind, and compassionate and capable of making good moral decisions. He must love his family and he must learn to love the people I love, or at least understand why I love them. He must have a cause, and a desire to make a difference. Ok, he doesn't have to save the world, but I do want him to have other ambitions besides getting rich, buying a nice house, and a nice car.

Anyone qualified?

Who wants to apply? Send me your updated resume. =)

I AM EMO

I am Emo.

But what does that mean?

I was born with a chemical imbalance in my brain which causes me to get severely depressed. Occasionally it also allows me to feel joy, but I fear it only does this because to know the true pain of depression, you must have felt happiness to compare it with.

I have also been given anxiety and confusing thought patterns which other people cannot understand, though they make perfect sense to me.

While I would not wish these things upon anyone else, I do not think they are necessarily bad things. They allow us to see the world for what it is, to see past the sugar coating the governments and media give everything bad. If you are forever happy, you don't see the evil in the world because you do not believe that it is there. But if you already see the badness within yourself, it is easy to realise how brainwashed the rest of the population is with the happy lies of those higher up.

There was not a point in my life which caused me to be the way I am. I was born with a genetic tendency to depressive and addictive behaviours. Though to blame my genes would be a cop out.I am the way I am, because I didn't realise that the way I am was wrong until it was too late.

I am Emo.

Though the meaning of those words has been lost in the multitude of people claiming the title as their own.

I have the slow-fading patterns crisscrossing my arm which are the tell tale sign of an 'Emo'. For me, they are simply remnants of a past I wish I could truthfully deny.

But don't think that I regret it. I don't. Not for a second. Yes I have scarred myself. But it didn't kill me, and so has made me stronger. It has given me the power to be able to help others from making my own mistakes. And, every scar I inflicted upon myself, is a scar I did not inflict upon another.

It was a necessary evil.

I am Emo.

Except that I'm not. I come from a time before Emo was anything but a not yet known music genre, emotive rock. I am from even before Angsty was the teenage diagnosis of choice. My friends knew I wasn't normal, but what is normal anyway. These days you could say that a large proportion of the teenage population is like me, and so I could be called normal. But then, I was different. There weren't others like me.

So I have lived through the plummeting rollercoaster of life, watching as more and more people hopped on the ride. Listening to their screams as they experienced something new.

I was riding no hands by then. Thinking, just maybe, that I might fall out and hit the ground with a splat.

They call me Emo...

Because they have no other explanation for me.